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Question for September 1, 2013: Changing Your Life
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Has meditation changed your life in a noticeable way? How?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
The single biggest change, I'd say, is awareness. Quite simply, I feel much more aware of all the thoughts, emotions, and physical feelings that are going on in my body at a given time.
That strengthened awareness gives me a sense of space, which allows for the time to work with the experience before reacting to it, which has been such a nice thing. It's hardly the case that I never find myself wondering "why did I just do that?", but it's happening a lot less than it used to.

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goojir — 4 years ago — permalink
Well surely! The effects depends on a lot of things though. At this moment I'm getting huge amounts of anger coming through, probably something I've suppressed for a long time. Mostly disturbing, but I know it's the result of meditation, and I'm glad that the suppression has come to an end.

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Question for September 8, 2013: Changing the Past
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
If you could go back in time (say: one, five, or ten years), what, if anything, would you change your meditation practice?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
The biggest change I'd make is to have started sooner. There are a number of small mistakes—lapses, unnecessary distractions, added energy that made practice harder than it should be—but sitting for more years than I have feels like the most valuable change I could make.

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Question for October 6, 2013: Alternative Reality
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Do you think your life would be different if you'd never been exposed to meditation? How?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
It's hard for me to separate out one single part of my experience. I've been meditating for about two years now, and things have changed a lot in that time, but it's very hard to say with confidence the bounds of meditation's role in the changes.
I think what's most clear in my mind is that meditation has given me more space around my thoughts, and greater room to question them. This means that I've a better chance of noticing things like impatience and anger before they strike into action. So I think the concrete change it makes sense to talk about is that I've been made much more patient and aware of the true reality of a situation. I imagine I'd find myself randomly having scared or angered someone more if I wasn't exposed to meditation.

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fredclaymeyer — 4 years ago — permalink
Basically, I shudder to think about this. Meditation (and spirituality/Buddhism more generally) is basically what's given my life a sense of belonging or making some kind of sense.
I'm sure I'd have something else if not for meditation--maybe astrophysics or lawyering--but I just don't think those things could bring the kind of relief that spirituality does, or make me as useful to other people.
Would be fun to know the counterfactual on this one.

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susyn153 — 4 years ago — permalink
I don't think, I know it would be different.  I never would have met my husband, I would be a harpy (cause I was), I never would have realized how my irritation and anger affected other people and myself.  I never would have realized how much I didn't like myself or how harsh and judgemental I was with myself and others.  
I am still all of those things, I just know what is going on and am aware enough to work on it a little bit everyday.  Meditation has allowed me to zoom out and look at myself and others very differently.  We all have value, we all have something to offer, we have all been damaged in some way or another.  The one advantage to coming to meditation later in life is that you have a clear compare and contrast image.  

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
We all have value, we all have something to offer, we have all been damaged in some way or another.
That is exceptionally beautiful and well-stated. Thanks for sharing.

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Kyletin — 4 years ago — permalink
Thank you for sharing with us. I found this a very insightful post. While it doesn't throw out any radical new thinking, it provides somewhat of an anecdote to help others understand how you've benefitted directly from meditation.

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Question for October 27, 2013: One Change
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Of all the changes you've noticed in your life from meditating, which do you think is most important?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
I always struggle with this kind of question. In many situations, I can't think of any change at all that's occurred; they're all quite subtle. It requires me thinking really hard about what my life was like at a day-to-day level a while ago to start to get a sense of what's changed since I started to meditate.
I think the most valuable change for me is that I'm more skeptical of my first reaction to things. This could be stated similarly as an increase in the space I have around my thoughts and emotions. But essentially, I've learned that most emotions and thoughts aren't really meaningful, and don't really arise for a wise reason. For the most part a feeling is just a set of sensations in the body, a thought just a collection of firings of old prejudices.
What this all means, in practice, is that I'm a lot less quick to get angry, or defensive, than I would in the past. It's not all that long ago that someone suggesting that X or Y was a problem would set me back on my heels declaring that it's better the way it is. Now I, at least, pause for a second and measure my gut reaction with a small willingness to consider that this first reaction, which I may indeed share, isn't necessarily trustworthy. This also makes me much less likely to start yelling when I'm angry, though that does still happen from time to time.

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Question for November 3, 2013: Meditation and World
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Can meditation change the world? Should it? How?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
Meditation neither could nor should ever take over the world like nuclear war or other extremely affecting and quick changes one can imagine.
That being said, I think it has the power to change the world in some significant (if small) ways. But I think there's also a sort of inherent aggregation in this conversations that's worth addressing: meditation travels with many religions, but is not the same thing as any of those religions. It's conceivable that Jainism or Hinduism or Buddhism takes over the world and brings meditation along with it, but that doesn't seem like it speaks specifically to meditation's role.
Those provisos in place I think meditation has the potential to change the world on a small scale. I've found that meditation really heightens sensitivity: I'm much more aware of a how things feel. It's kind of what Louis CK is saying about kids saying "You're fat" and experiencing the return of that, but much more so. I'm more sensitive to the impact on me of my thoughts, the impact of other things I'd never previously noticed on my thoughts, and the implications of my actions in a way I never was before.
So I think to the extent I'd expect meditation to change the world, it's through a process of individuals experiencing that kind of change in their own life and sharing that with the small world over which they have influence. To the extent meditation is important to living in a sensitive and caring way, individuals sharing and spreading that energy with people will, in small but tangible ways, change the world.
And there's a real potential for a positive domino-effect to come from that process: a caring person sensitive to the value of meditation may well create a cascade of people looking to be more caring and interested in a practicing meditation. I think slowly but surely, the story of mindfulness/Buddhism/meditation coming to the Western world is that story, and it's early days.

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Question for June 29, 2014: Meditation and Relationships
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
Have you ever felt that your meditation practice has had an impact on your relationships with other people? How?

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patricia1958 — 3 years ago — permalink
Yes, definitely. I am calmer, more centered, better able to focus, and I don't yell at people any more :D

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davidbhayes — 3 years ago — permalink
I'm much more patient with other people. The primary thing I feel like meditation has given me is space. Space between my thoughts and feelings and my vision of what's really happening. This space gives me time to be more deliberate and careful when speaking, and as a result I'm much less prone to shouting in anger or other things I feel I used to do pretty regularly.

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Question for August 10, 2014: Positive Impact
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
Have you noticed any positive changes in your life as a result of meditation? If so, what?

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Question for October 12, 2014: What Would You Change
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
If you could magically change one aspect of your meditation practice, what would it be? Why?

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Question for October 26, 2014: Progress in Meditation
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
Do you believe that one can meaningfully change their experience through and in meditation? How?

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Question for November 23, 2014: Change Your Life
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
Has meditation changed your life? If so, how? If not, could it?

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Question for March 22, 2015: Alternative Reality
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
Do you think your life would be different if you'd never been exposed to meditation? How?

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Question for April 12, 2015: One Change
Medivate — 2 years ago — in Question of the Week
Of all the changes you've noticed in your life from meditating, which do you think is most important?

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Question for April 19, 2015: Meditation and World
Medivate — 2 years ago — in Question of the Week
Can meditation change the world? Should it? How?

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davidbhayes — 2 years ago — permalink
It's a bit of bold and generic question. If everyone meditated regularly (and understood by meditation something approximating what I mean by meditation) then yes, I think the world would slowly change, it'd be a much softer place. But that's a lot of ifs...

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Question for June 21, 2015: Meditation Changes
Medivate — 2 years ago — in Question of the Week
Do you notice any difference in how you relate to the world when you do (or don't) meditate?

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Question for April 3, 2016: Changing Your Life
Medivate — 1 year ago — in Question of the Week
Has meditation changed your life in a noticeable way? How?

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Question for April 10, 2016: Changing the Past
Medivate — 1 year ago — in Question of the Week
If you could go back in time (say: one, five, or ten years), what, if anything, would you change your meditation practice?

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Question for June 12, 2016: Meditation and Relationships
Medivate — 1 year ago — in Question of the Week
Have you ever felt that your meditation practice has had an impact on your relationships with other people? How?

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Question for July 24, 2016: Positive Impact
Medivate — 1 year ago — in Question of the Week
Have you noticed any positive changes in your life as a result of meditation? If so, what?

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Question for September 18, 2016: What Would You Change
Medivate — 1 year ago — in Question of the Week
If you could magically change one aspect of your meditation practice, what would it be? Why?

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Question for September 25, 2016: Progress in Meditation
Medivate — 12 months ago — in Question of the Week
Do you believe that one can meaningful change their experience through and in meditation? How?

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Question for October 16, 2016: Change Your Life
Medivate — 11 months ago — in Question of the Week
Has meditation changed your life? If so, how? If not, could it?

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Question for November 6, 2016: Meditation Changes
Medivate — 11 months ago — in Question of the Week
Do you notice any difference in how you relate to the world when you do (or don't) meditate?

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Question for March 5, 2017: Alternative Reality
Medivate — 7 months ago — in Question of the Week
Do you think your life would be different if you'd never been exposed to meditation? How?

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Question for March 26, 2017: One Change
Medivate — 6 months ago — in Question of the Week
Of all the changes you've noticed in your life from meditating, which do you think is most important?

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Question for April 2, 2017: Meditation and World
Medivate — 6 months ago — in Question of the Week
Can meditation change the world? Should it? How?