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Making meditation a routine
davidbhayes — 5 years ago — in What works for me
One things that I found really helpful in establishing a regular meditation practice is to make a meditation a part of your daily routines. For me, I shower and brush my teeth together everyday, and have no place to rush off to after doing those things. So adding medititation to the end of that chain of routines fit naturally, and made it so I really couldn't forget (or "forget") to meditate.
If I couldn't do it at the time, at a minimum I was forced to engage with myself about why I wasn't doing it, and make an agreement with myself about when I would be doing it.

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Question for February 17, 2013: Not Meditating
Medivate — 5 years ago — in Question of the Week
What's a reason you give for not meditating? Do you have a compelling response?

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Shakuhachi — 5 years ago — permalink
Sometimes I am too sleepy or somthing on TV I would rather watch.
If I put meditation off to do somehting else I may or may not get back too it.
I have many possible distractions, pets & family.
Then if I have a very good meditation followed by not so good I get depressed and discouraged.
Sometimes I am just too impatient to sit there.

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emmacat — 5 years ago — permalink
By the lack of replies to this post, I'm guessing I'm not the only one who found this question uncomfortable to ponder. The first thing that comes up is, rather predictably, I don't have enough time to sit as much as I would want to. But that's an excuse, not a reason. I used to have conversations in my head to justify not meditating, lately I don't even try. When I lie to myself, it kind of defeats the purpose of having a practice in the first place. The truth is, sometimes Idon't have the courage to connect with what's going on in my mind and heart. There are days when Im going through something painful I just can't sit before I go to work because I need to be functioning. I've been meditating for almost a year and I still have bouts of escapism. The thing with meditation is that it leaves me with no place to hide and sometimes I don't have the strength to stay with my feelings. 

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fredclaymeyer — 5 years ago — permalink
Yeah, I definitely sometimes put off meditation because what's going on in my mind is uncomfortable, even though actually doing it would help hugely.
A more common problem for me is just that even when it's wonderful, meditation isn't necessarily fun. They're two different things, it seems; and fun things seem to be a lot more habit-forming...

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emmacat — 5 years ago — permalink
Hmmm... that's an interesting distinction. I can relate to that, when I have a pleasant meditation session I think: 'I wanna do it more' but I end up sticking to my planned times or even skipping it altogether the very next day. I think its because I can't really count on the next session being as good, but I know I'm going to like the next episode of my favorite show. 

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Question for June 1, 2014: Habit
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Is meditation a "habit" for you? Should it be? Why or why not?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
For me, like exercise, shaving, teeth brushing, and trimming fingernail, meditation is a habit. And I think it's best that way. 
Why? Because I believe pretty strongly that "you are what you repeatedly do." Stated differently, I think that habits matter more than most anything else. They're so automatic we don't think about them much, but they really shape everything. It nearly goes without saying, but someone in the habit of watching TV all day isn't likely to write the next great novel. Someone who makes a habit of writing everyday just might.
So by having a meditation "habit" I do it regularly. For me anything that I think I should do that doesn't reach the level of "yep I regularly do that and feel weird when I don't" is something i just don't reliably do. It's something I vaguely feel obligated to but never quite accomplish.
I know some people worry about losing some spiritual quality if they make or view meditation as a routine activity. I think there's some merit to that. But I get so much more value out regularly making a point of meditating (especially when there's a lot of resistance and struggle in it) that I wouldn't want it to be more will-based. I just know I'd delay and dally so I never really did it.

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Question for November 29, 2015: Not Meditating
Medivate — 2 years ago — in Question of the Week
What's a reason you give for not meditating? Do you have a compelling response?

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Question for May 15, 2016: Habit
Medivate — 2 years ago — in Question of the Week
Is meditation a "habit" for you? Should it be? Why or why not?

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Question for October 15, 2017: Not Meditating
Medivate — 2 months ago — in Question of the Week
What's a reason you give for not meditating? Do you have a compelling response?