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Question for October 27, 2013: One Change
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Of all the changes you've noticed in your life from meditating, which do you think is most important?

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
I always struggle with this kind of question. In many situations, I can't think of any change at all that's occurred; they're all quite subtle. It requires me thinking really hard about what my life was like at a day-to-day level a while ago to start to get a sense of what's changed since I started to meditate.
I think the most valuable change for me is that I'm more skeptical of my first reaction to things. This could be stated similarly as an increase in the space I have around my thoughts and emotions. But essentially, I've learned that most emotions and thoughts aren't really meaningful, and don't really arise for a wise reason. For the most part a feeling is just a set of sensations in the body, a thought just a collection of firings of old prejudices.
What this all means, in practice, is that I'm a lot less quick to get angry, or defensive, than I would in the past. It's not all that long ago that someone suggesting that X or Y was a problem would set me back on my heels declaring that it's better the way it is. Now I, at least, pause for a second and measure my gut reaction with a small willingness to consider that this first reaction, which I may indeed share, isn't necessarily trustworthy. This also makes me much less likely to start yelling when I'm angry, though that does still happen from time to time.

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Question for June 8, 2014: Priority of Meditation
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
What things you do regularly are more important to you than meditating? Which are less? Why?

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davidbhayes — 3 years ago — permalink
It's interesting. I think that eating, hydrating, and other bodily functions are obviously more important. I don't know about bathing — I think because of its value to others I'd put it before meditation. And I suppose, practically, I also put my job — making money, helping team mates, etc — above meditation. The way in which it contributes to the others — the ability to eat, etc — is the logic there, though I'm not sure it's strictly that simple.
But I would rank meditation as more important to me than exercise, though not by a large margin. I really enjoying finding time to read, and write various things, but those are certainly less important to me than meditation. As are watching TV or movies, listening to music, etc.
Spending time with family and friends is an interesting and hard one for me. Practically I do my best to not have to make that specific trade-off, but if I did I can't say confidently which way I'd decide. I know that I'm better with my family and friends — better able to enjoy their company, better able to deal with potentially hard situations, etc — when I meditate. But I also know that to many of them, in many situations, my bodily presence is more important than my psychological one, and they mostly gloss over the difference. Practically I'd probably have to weigh the importance of my presence to others in a particular situation against how much value I perceive I would get from meditating for that time.

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Question for April 12, 2015: One Change
Medivate — 3 years ago — in Question of the Week
Of all the changes you've noticed in your life from meditating, which do you think is most important?

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Question for May 22, 2016: Priority of Meditation
Medivate — 1 year ago — in Question of the Week
What things you do regularly are more important to you than meditating? Which are less? Why?

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Question for March 26, 2017: One Change
Medivate — 8 months ago — in Question of the Week
Of all the changes you've noticed in your life from meditating, which do you think is most important?