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Question for November 17, 2013: Stop Meditating
Medivate — 4 years ago — in Question of the Week
Is there any single event or change that would make you stop meditating? Why?

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Lullabyehaze — 4 years ago — permalink
Interesting question. I hope I won't stop, as I'm on a the longest streak of my life right now. But a big change in routine might be the thing that would break it. I'll be traveling soon and staying at my in-laws and I can see that that might interrupt things. I'm glad this question came up so that I can think about how to prevent that. if that happened, though it would probably be hard for me to get back into it because of the "breaking the chain" mentality. meaning once I did not have so many days in a row! the motivation to keep going might not be as strong.
i can't think of anything that would make me stop meditating for good, though. It's just too nice and too helpful to stop doing forever.

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
Yah, I definitely think that you're right about the power of the chain. There's a lot more commitment for me in knowing that I've basically been meditating every day for over a year than there would be if I thought I'd just meditated sometimes.
And I find the disruption of traveling problematic as well. I find that two big things help me with traveling: having a plan and allowing for flexibility. They're almost two sides of the same coin, but by having a plan I mean that I have a rough idea of what it'll be like where I'm staying, and when and how I'll find time to fit sitting in in that situation. I like to brainstorm more times and places than I need, so that at least one theorized times can fall through but I can still make it work.
 
By flexibility, I mean that sometimes you really don't get to sit down on your zafu in a quiet corner and do it like you do at home. You've got to kind of roll with the punches there, and if that means you're meditating while riding the bus, so be it. If that means sitting on a bench in the mall while your traveling companions are shopping, that's OK too.

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Lullabyehaze — 4 years ago — permalink
I'm on my trip, and so far, so good. I adjusted my goal to 15 minutes every day and have mostly done 20. i meditated in the flight and in the car, but I am also in the habit of going upstairs to the terrace after breakfast for 20 minutes of yoga and 20 minutes of sitting. I do the sitting first so that if I am interrupted, at least I'll have met my daily goal. I'm at my in-laws' now, and tomorrow we all leave on a trip for a few days, so I'll need to make a special effort. I think my best bets for alone time are right after waking up or right before bed.

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davidbhayes — 4 years ago — permalink
That's great to hear! Hope the little trip didn't interfere too much with your ability to keep it up. Sound's like you're really managing it deftly.